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Hypnotic Coaching

by Shaun Brookhouse (Author), Fiona Karen Biddle (Author)


Core Conditions

  • Empathy

  • Unconditional positive regard

  • Congruence


Tenets of coaching

  • Responsibility

  • Truth

  • Change


Listening Skills

  • Paraphrasing

  • Reflective feelings

  • Summarising

  • The use of questions


Gestalt use of language

  • Taking responsibility

  • Avoid generalizations

  • Change to making direct statements rather than indirect ones

  • Claiming/owning choice

  • Past/present as figure/ground (be in the now)


Acknowledging vs Collusion

  • Acknowledging leads on from unconditional positive regard

  • Communicating your acceptance and valuing without judgement of the person


Keys to an achievable outcome

  1. Stated in the positive

  2. Specify present situation

  3. Specify outcome

  4. Specify evidence procedure

  5. Is it congruently desirable

  6. Is it self-initiated and self-maintained

  7. Is it appropriately contextualized?

  8. What resources are needed?

  9. Is it ecological


Locus of Control is the term used to describe a tendeny to presume control to be internal to the self or external.


Stages of change (Prohaska and Di Clemente theory):

  • Precontemplation

  • Contemplation

  • Preparation

  • Action

  • Maintenance


Championing

  • The coach's job is to be the client's number one fan

  • Championing is a way to demonstrate this and to support the client in their endeavors

  • "Come on your Spurs" (parallel comparison example)


Wheel of life

  • Home

  • Relationships

  • Financial

  • Career

  • Spirituality

  • Health

  • Hobbies

  • Friends


Reframing

  • Context reframe

  • Meaning reframe


Modelling

  • (Richard Bandler and John Grinder) A means of mechanistically "copying" what is important about individuals and installing their belief, values and behaviours in themselves.

  • Key elements:

    • Matching and mirroring the physiology - The key to modelling physiology is the breathing, and then posture.

    • Filter patterns and strategies of the person one wants to model - Filter patterns include things like values and beliefs, we discover the emotional energy of the person being modelled.

    • Final element is to elicit the strategy of how this person does what they do eg find a model for one's business and another model for one's therapy.


Time Management

Select - Exclude - Perform

  1. Make lists of everything that you have to do, categorised into areas of your life

  2. Plan each day thoroughly

  3. Mix your tasks to avoid boredom and promote energy

  4. Allow a good mix of work and breaks

  5. Build in flexibility to allow for the unexpected

  6. Always be on time

  7. Focs on one task at a time: only multitask when this doesnt reduce your effectiveness

  8. Delegate where possible

  9. Anticipate and adapt to Change

  10. Give priority to important tasks. It can help to categorise the jobs on your list as high or low priority and whether they are big or small jobs. There may be a little gap in your schedule which could be filled with a small, high priority job leaving big blocks of time for bigger jobs.

  11. Set clear, achievable goals

  12. Look after yourself

  13. Reward yourself

  14. Be honest with yourself

  15. Touch each piece of paper only once

  16. Avoid negativity

  17. Take time to exercise

  18. Don't Procrastinate

  19. Finish one thing before moving on to another

  20. Learn to switch off

  21. Access emails once or tiwce a day and deal with each one as you read it (where possible)

  22. Learn to deal with interruptions, whether this is the phone (especially mobiles), visits or instant messaging.


Death bed scenario

  • This technique involvees looking forward to your own death bed scene, and from there looking back. (NB: don't use this with people who are or could percieve themselves to be close to death, or who are depressed, or have little hope)

  • The aim is for them to see a fulfilled life, to feel happy with all they have done and achieved. This question gives them a chance to see what will make them complete.


Miracle Question

"Just imagine that after you have gone to bed tonight, a miracle just happens and your problem is resolved. You are asleep while your miracle occurs. When you wake up tomorrow morning, what will tell you that the miracle has happened? What will be different? How? What will you be doing differently? What will others be doing differently?"

  • This gives the client clue as to the steps they need to take


I-CAN-DO (model taken from "The Life Coaching Handbook" by Curly Martin)

  • Investigate

  • Current

  • Aims

  • Number

  • Date

  • Outcome

Example:

  • I: What is your reason for wanting to run a marathon?

  • C: How far can you run comfortably now?

  • A: What is your aim, completion or is the time important?

  • N: How many ways can you think to get more training ing?

  • D: When do you want to do this?

  • O: How will t feel when you achieve this?


Letting go (Sedona model)

  1. Relax and allow yourself to feel whatever it is your feel. Really allow it, welcome it if possible, but really let the feeling be there

  2. Ask youreslf the following questions:

    1. Could you let it go?

    2. Would you?

    3. When?


Breaking Chain

Panning for Gold


Transactional Analysis (TA)

  • Scripts, Injunctions and Patterns

  • Injunctions are the opposite of scripts

  • Patterns are scripty phrases that many people live by

The drama traingle

  • Persecutor

  • Victim

  • Rescuer

The Ego-state Model - states that any time each person is either in Parent, Adult of Child mode

  • Parent is acting as one's parents did and can be termed "controlling" or "nuturing"

  • Adult is using current information and resources to choose appropriate behviour

  • Child is behaving as one did as a child and can be termed "adapted" or "free"


Existential Givens - struggling with any or all produces what is known as existential angst:

  1. Death is inevitable

  2. Everyone is ultimately alone

  3. We are free to make of our lives as we will

  4. There is no obvious meaning or sense to life


Looking at obstacles

Success = goal + movement + resources - obstacles

Obstacles can be:

  1. Removed

  2. Gone Over

  3. Gone Under

  4. Gone Around

  5. Gone through

  6. Shrunk

  7. Utilised



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